Quickie Advice: How Do I Get Hubby to Try Kink?


Lelo’s Etherea Silk Cuffs

Today’s quickie question:

How do I go about asking my husband to try something new…like toys, whips, bondage? Where should I go to buy them, a local store or online?

Start small — you don’t want to spring a whole drawer full of intimidating new toys like nipple clamps and whips on him. Go with something simple, like a cute little pair of fuzzy velcro cuffs. Put it in the positive: “I’d love it if we tried this” and bring it up in bed when make it part of the pillow talk — that’s a time he’ll probably be more amenable to new sexy ideas.

And include him in your exploration of products — if he’s shy or hesitant then a bricks & mortar store might be too much for him, so stick with a reputible place with high quality products and good information like GoodVibes.com, Babeland.com or Lelo.com.
GoodVibes is actually selling a nice little kit with our book, some cute cuffs, a beautiful blindfold, and a nice feather tickler — it’s a great way to ease into more daring things.

150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink  is on sale now!